“How do you protect your daughter when you can’t even convince your own husband?” Japanese feminist activist (and occasional Unseen Japan writer) Sachiko Ishikawa joins Unseen Japan’s Jay Allen to discuss how women in Japan married to Japanese men often struggle in their own households for support and understanding.
In my discussion with Sachi on this issue, we talked about a recently essay from UJ writer Harumi Sasaki, who talked about her struggles getting her husband to understand how difficult it can be as a working mother in Japan. Sachi readily agreed and shared several anecdotes from her own marriage. In Sachi’s words: “A lot of Japanese men…are not taught how to empathize.”
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Husband Management: Women in Japan and the Struggle at Home
“How do you protect your daughter when you can’t even convince your own husband?” Japanese feminist activist Sachiko Ishikawa joins Unseen Japan’s Jay Allen to discuss how women in Japan married to Japanese men often struggle in their own households for support and understanding.
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